I remember when my new roommate went on a tirade about how antidepressants were over-prescribed and totally unnecessary about two weeks after a member of my family went on them. It’s in my top five opinions that will make me feel scorn for you: saying that someone’s lifesaving…
Also it’s about paying attention to your needs and your body not just listening to your Dr be proactive about your health when possible.
“A 16-year-old boy has been charged with murder after a Chicago police officer fatally shot his 15-year-old friend Wednesday on the South Side. Brandon Ross and his friend Tatioun Williams allegedly robbed a man at gunpoint in the 7000 block of South Cregier Avenue Wednesday evening, and were confronted by police officers a short time later, the Chicago Tribune reports. When the officers told the teens to stop, Williams, who was holding the gun, allegedly turned in the officer’s direction, Fox Chicago reports. Fearing for her life, the officer shot the 15-year-old, killing him. “They could have taken him to jail, they could have done anything but taken his life,” Williams’ mother told the Tribune Thursday. Under state law, police can charge someone with murder when an accomplice is killed during the commission of a crime. Even though Ross didn’t pull the trigger, he was charged as an adult with murder and armed robbery. He was ordered held on $900,000 bail Friday.”—
Wow. In case you’re having trouble understanding what happened, because I sure as hell did… Two teens rob a guy at gunpoint, afterwords they’re walking down the street and a police car pulls up and tells them to stop. The officer sees gun in one teen’s hand and shoot him dead. The other teen is now charged with murdering his friend.
I never quite believe the whole story when an officer kills someone, especially when they didn’t actually shoot first. don’t they teach non leathal approaches to this in training, isn’t there a warning? debilitate with a non deadly shot first?
why is kill the first and final action in these situations.
A Day Pass is required to enter the Leather Market. There is a $5.00 suggested donation with all proceeds going to the Leather Archives and Museum. (Note: you must be 21 to enter the Market.)
The hours of the IML 2011 Leather Market will be:
Friday, May 27 - Market Open 12 PM to 7 PM
Saturday, May 28 - Market Open 11 AM to 7 PM
Sunday, May 29 - Market Open 11 AM to 5 PM
Monday, May 30 - Market Open 11 AM to 4 PM
…I’ve written about all of this before, and to be frank, I was and am afraid of writing about it again. Sometimes, readers ask, “Why do you pay so much attention to this stuff?” Answer: because it astounds me! Doesn’t it astound you? I can deal with people calling me names on the Internet. But what I have never been prepared for? The twisted, sadistic attacks on people I care about and on people I don’t even know (like my readers). I guess my stalkers thought that if they couldn’t hurt me anymore, they’d just start aiming for the closest targets. And that was something I never once anticipated. Each and every single time it happened (and the attacks became progressively worse over the years), I was deeply surprised. I didn’t even know that people were capable of this kind of malice. This is not criticism. This is not disapproval. This isn’t even bullying. This is harassment and intimidation. How does one get over the fact that this is the consequence of writing about sex? That another human being who doesn’t even know you in real life can hate you this deeply?
That’s the reason I stopped SexAndTheIvy.com. Because I didn’t have any recourse or protection (legal or otherwise) and I was sick of being constantly afraid for myself and those around me. So I adjusted accordingly and made myself as non-controversial as possible in order to not attract this type of attention anymore. And even that didn’t drive them all away. The haters won. If you were expecting a happy ending to this entry, I’m afraid there isn’t one. I wake up everyday hoping they haven’t decided to target someone new. When I turned in the second, more honest draft of my essay to Sarah, I was scared, not just of the reactions from readers but of the potential backlash. Because I know the second I start to feel safe, the moment I start to believe that I’m flying under the radar, that’s when it’ll happen again. This is what slut-shaming looks like. It’s not just a slur, a curse word, something uttered and forgotten. It’s about breaking your faith in humankind. It’s about reminding you of the depths of people’s malevolence. It’s about instilling fear so that even if you have a voice, you shut yourself right up because you know what happens when you use it. And at some point, you become so paranoid and terrified that they don’t even need to police you anymore because you start to police yourself.
The fact that I don’t have to deal with the kind of harassment and intimidation and threats that female sex bloggers deal with continues to astound me. I have no doubt I would have been outed long ago if I was a women. Thank you Lena, for everything you’ve done and do. You were an inspiration to me when you wrote sex and the ivy and you continue to be now.
Art and music were the only places Kathleen saw that had room for contradiction and ambiguity. But even within punk rock, her peers seemed to think feminism was no longer useful. When she met other female musicians on tour, she interviewed them, asking, “How does the fact that rape exists affect your life? How does being female affect your work?” With distressing frequency she got the same answer: “Oh, it doesn’t matter that I’m a woman; I’m a musician first.” One musician admitted that her male bandmates pressured her to wear a tight dress and lipstick at shows while the guys dressed more casually. Yet she insisted she had transcended gender.
So the punk world was just as oblivious as the world at large. How could gender be irrelevant when so many girls were coming up to Kathleen in tears; when an AC/DC cover band had the nerve to accuse Viva Knievel of being a novelty act because there were two women in the group; when Kathleen and her bandmate Louise were so often the only women onstage the whole night; when they had to open for a band in Ohio whose singer blurted, between songs, “incest is best, put your sister to the test”; when Kathleen felt a terror in dark alleys behind rock clubs that the men in her band never experienced? What fantasyland were these other women living in?
“PETA is an unbearably misogynistic, classist, ableist piece of shit organism that has stained veganism with their outrageous antics in the name of spreading a moral system that, even to a vegan like me, generally makes no sense.
Anyway, their advertising exploits women, they ignore the fact that some people literally cannot eat a vegan diet, and they assume that every one has access to the food necessary to be a “healthy” vegan. (Newsflash: they don’t.)”—
seriously I don’t want to hear one more example comparing rape to automobile usage….it’s fucking dumb. Drunk rape is not like drunk driving and preparing for post rape abortion is not like keeping a spare tire! goddamnit!!!!!