Sometimes I wish I could just be sexual and not political, but America likes to make it IMPOSSIBLE to be openly sexual, interested in sex, interested in BDSM and interested in having control over reproduction and family planning without politics. Politics ruin everything. Politics make everything unsexy.
And even worse you find yourself having to explain or defend your sexuality because as soon as you say you are into that you become the spokesperson for the community. Fuck you America for your constant boner killing!
I don’t even know, dude. There is a chance my GI Bill payments could stop and that worries me (UNDERSTATEMENT). We have some money saved up but we rely on my GI Bill to pay our rent and provide our entertainment budget. Plus I save…
Teal and orange are the new black and white. I’ve seen this trend growing in both film and video games over the past decade; makes me wonder if color theory is even an afterthought for big-budget directors anymore.
Click the link to read this hilarious - though a bit tragic - article.
“But mostly, I don’t understand how these issues are still simply referred to as “women’s issues.” The destinies of men and women are intertwined by sex, and pregnancy, and childbirth. It is time for more men to sack up and start taking responsibility for their end of the conversation.”—
chicago is home to the walk for choice, taking place this saturday! let’s show those assholes in congress a bit of feminist fight!
Unfortunately I am working during this extremely important event and I feel like an ass for it because I feel very strongly about the cause and would like nothing more than to be there fighting for it. If you are not working please go, we need the numbers.
This is based on Peggy McIntosh’s White Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack.
Strangers don’t assume they can ask what my genitals look like and how I have sex.
My validity as a man/woman/human is not based on how much surgery I’ve had or how well I “pass” as a non-trans person.
When initiating sex with someone, I do not have to worry that they won’t be able to deal with my parts or that having sex with me will cause my partner to question his or her own sexual orientation.
I am not excluded from events which are either explicitly or de facto men-born-men or women-born-women only (possibly anything involving nudity).
My politics are not questioned based on the choices I make with regards to my body.
I don’t have to hear, “So, have you had THE surgery?” or “Oh, so you’re REALLY a [incorrect sex or gender]?” each time I come out to someone.
I am not expected to constantly defend my medical decisions.
Strangers do not ask me what my “real name” [birth name] is and then assume they have a right to call me by that name.
People do not disrespect me by using incorrect pronouns even after they’ve been corrected.
I do not worry that someone wants to be my friend or have sex with me in order to prove his or her “hipness” or “good’ politics.
I do not have to worry about whether I will be able to find a safe and accessible bathroom or locker room to use.
When engaging in political action, I do not have to worry about the gendered repercussions of being arrested. (i.e. What will happen to me if the cops find out that my genitals do not match my gendered appearance? Will I end up in a cell with people of my own gender?)
I do not have to defend my right to be a part of “queer” space or movement, and lesbian, gay, and bisexual people will not try to exclude me from our movements in order to gain political legitimacy for themselves.
My experience of gender (or gendered spaces) is not viewed as “baggage” by others of the gender in which I live.
I do not have to choose between either invisibility (“passing”) or being constantly “othered” and/or tokenized based on my gender.
I am not told that my sexual orientation and gender identity are mutually exclusive.
When I go to a gym or public pool, I can use the showers.
If I end up in the emergency room, I do not have to worry that my gender will keep me from receiving appropriate treatment nor will all of my medical issues be seen as a product of my gender. (“Your nose is running and your throat hurts? Must be due to the hormones!”)
My health insurance provider (or public health system) does not specifically exclude me from receiving benefits or treatment available to others because of my gender.
When I express my internal identities in my daily life, I am not considered “mentally ill” by the medical establishment.
I am not required to undergo extensive psychological evaluation in order to receive basic medical care.
The medical establishment does not serve as a “gatekeeper” which disallows self-determination of what happens to my body.
People do not use me as a scapegoat for their own unresolved gender issues.
Thank you for this! I was really inspired by Peggy McIntosh’s article. This also goes well with Linda Nochlin’s Why Have There Been No Great Women Artists?
This is very insightful I wish writing of this sort was more main stream.
Let’s give Speaker John Boehner credit for keeping his promise to give members more chance to debate and offer amendments. Really, if things get any more open, the members will start throwing themselves off the balcony. But not such high marks on consistency. The newly ascendant Republicans have been howling that the deficit is so big, so threatening, that no target for cutting is sacred. “Everything is on the table. We’re broke,” said Boehner.
But the table is mainly crowded with stuff the Republicans didn’t like to begin with. Family-planning money and environmental protection, but not oil tax breaks or Nascar sponsorships. “Sesame Street” is fair game, but the Daytona 500 is untouchable.
This is an interesting article and I’m very glad Mr.Pathogen brought up the topic of misogyny in the industrial scene. It’s no secret that industrial is a boys club, most of the bands (especially the successful ones) are comprised of mainly men thrashing about in fatigues. But the lack of women (or diversity at all really) in the genre isn’t the end of it. The scene is full of images of scantily clad women used to push events, shows and sell merch. This isn’t a-typical in music, but for a genre that boasts a largely “fuck the system” and almost punk attitude it sure does give in to the systematic belief that sex (especially sexualized women) sells.
Where I do believe and agree with him that it is pretty irresponsible of one of the most popular bands of the genre to perpetuate and even seemingly condone this behavior the problem is much bigger than some music video. It’s deeply rooted in the fan base who have responded to and encouraged misogynistic behavior by buying into and even making light of it. It seems like alot of women in the fan base are just as misogynistic as the men. In my experience alot of them have anti feminist attitudes. I’m not talking about the way they dress either, because by all means if you want to parade around in neon booty shorts and a matching plastic corset please do. What bothers me is that there seems to be an almost militant reaction (from men and women) when the issue of misogyny is addressed. Maybe I just have a bad taste in my mouth from my brief stint with a self proclaimed rivet head who liked to tell stupid women jokes? But it’s been almost 4 years since and there has been very little evidence to make me feel otherwise. As a feminist I feel largely alienated and repelled, unfortunately that (and terrible EBM) is what deters me from the genre.
Go ahead and get your panties in a wad, but I’m done sugar-coating this shit so you feel better about your dead fetus baby.
I’ll accept that as long as you call yourself “anti-choice.”
Good point, anti-choice would be a fair swap. And please, can we please stop calling fetus’ babies. Also can we recognize how many abortions are EMBRYOS!! Please can we be realistic! No one wins in a battle of lies and deception. Except, oh wait a second…
The point is, if you want to make an intelligent point, making exaggerations and stating blatant lies about the person you are arguing with will make you look like a dumbass. Pro-life arguments I accept are: all potential life is valuable. Even then its murky water when someone is raped.
Anyways, trying to keep myself away from the extreme pro-life arguments because I’ve felt a little bit close to a mental breakdown lately.
I was recently talking about the best encounter I had with an Anti- Choice person. we both spoke calmly and used fact rather than over dramatic lies. But there was a point when I had to end it because I saw no end to our argument, we both believed wholeheartedly in our causes and were not going to bend or change our views.
I am not interested in changing peoples feelings on a subject because it’s impossible I’m interested in making them respect that my views are just as important to me and I’d prefer they not view me as wrong or murderous for it.
A vast majority of the people I follow are politically aware at the least and most have a pretty wide audience. Don’t just ‘like’ these posts. Give us a fucking signal boost. Start yr own WFC. Find ways to show everyone…
Thank you Vanessa Grigoriadis and Rolling Stone for reducing such serious issues as a woman’s right to choose and rape to trivial blog fodder. To page-view garnering manufacture controversy. To basically meme status. Actually, fuck you.
Teen pop idols really should only be asked stupid questions like “whats your favorite color?,” “what’s your ideal first date?” and if you really want to get controversial, “boxer or briefs?” I mean does anyone expect a sheltered and privileged 16-year-old boy, or most any other 16-year-old for that matter, to have any sort of informed opinion about reproductive rights and sexual violence? I mean, obviously its a topic we need to discuss more with 16-year-old boys, but do we need to be blasting their takes on the subject across the world?
What does asking the question even achieve? Bringing some brief attention to the sad sack remnants of Rolling Stone (a magazine that at one time or another used to be revered for its music criticism and journalism, but over the last decade or so has lost all credibility on the front)? Letting Bieber’s young, mostly female fan base know that they should even care what a 16-year-old boy has to say about the matter? That if they should ever find themselves with an unwanted pregnancy, and lets be realistic many and many of them will, that they should take Bieber’s opinion of the mater into account? Because it’s apparently so important that it needs to be teased out all across the internet.
What the fuck ever. Hope you get tons of page views.
THIS RIGHT HERE. i’m willing to give justin beiber the benefit of the doubt that he’s just a 16-year-old kid talking out of his ass, but the writer is an ADULT asking a CHILD about serious ADULT matters. that’s a fucking problem.
UPDATE: To the apologists who believe tacking on the caveat “I guess I haven’t been in that position, so I wouldn’t be able to judge that” after saying “rape happens for a reason” somehow negates the utter backwardness of saying “rape happens for a reason”: It doesn’t.
OK, I just read the full article and I noticed this:
Works by Gore Vidal, Henry Wiencek, and Garry Wills reveal the moral compromises made by the nation’s early leaders and the fragile nature of the country’s infancy. More significant, they argue that many of the Founding Fathers knew slavery was wrong—and yet most did little to fight it.
More than anything, the historians say, the founders were hampered by the culture of their time. While Washington and Jefferson privately expressed distaste for slavery (Jefferson once called it an “execrable commerce”), they also understood that it was part of the political and economic bedrock of the country they helped to create.
What is the meaning of “knowing it’s wrong” or even the shameful “looking the other way for political gain” when you still feel entitled to other people’s teeth? Where is even the smallest room for personal “distaste” here?
This is basically like taking the whole “white people’s intentions are good” argument to the level of national history, because if the “founding fathers” knew that slavery was wrong but merely went along with it when it came to building a society on its foundations and taking people’s teeth out of their mouths for their own use, then the implication is that they were still good people who with tortured consciences did what they had to do for the Birth of a Nation.
John Wayne’s teeth, John Wayne’s teeth, are they plastic, are they steel…
The motivation behind asking Justin Bieber what he thinks about abortion disgusts me more than his response. It doesn't surprise me in the slightest that he is pro-life, I mean look at him. But why is a teen heartthrob who sings songs for a living being asked about abortion? ...erm maybe because millions and millions of teenage girls hang on his every word, and therefore his response could be used as yet another way to shame and control young women.
It’s a convenient thing for a young privileged boy who will probably never really have to deal with abortion to say. It’s a manipulative thing that was done, he is by no means an authority on any medical let alone female matter but he is an authority on “coolness” for many young impressionable (often frightening) little girls. He’s entitled to his opinion, I just wish he would have kept this one to himself.